I reached out to Louise to write this as a Mum of A who regularly gives us the ‘blunt truths’ about what it’s like to raise an autistic child. I’ve known Louise since I was about 6 or 7 when we both joined the same dance school in our hometown.
Over the years, we’ve lost touch but I’ve always been inspired by her honest and open nature to sharing how she raises her son A.
Safe to say, she is an incredible Mum but I think one of the reasons Louise agreed to do this, was to shed a little light on, what is a hugely misunderstood condition.
Thanks Louise. Please like and share to show her the respect she deserves for being so brave to write this post.
Autism is a neurological condition, which means it is entirely under the skull, you cannot identify an autistic person by looking at them.
What is autism? You hear the word thrown about regularly now, mainly because it is widely accepted these days, but many people do not understand it and are too worried about causing offence to ask, which is crazy, the more times we get asked the more people understand and that’s the goal! Autism is a difference in the wiring somewhere in the brain, making certain things difficult which a non autistic person would consider second nature, for example communication, listening, rationalising, understanding a joke etc.
Over 93% of human interaction is NON verbal. Someone with autism will likely struggle with non-direct communication. Therefore, it can be extremely difficult for someone with autism to interact well and maintain healthy friendships.
Many autistic children will grow into successful adults, given the correct support. Albert Einstein, Steve Jobs, Tim Burton & Lewis Carroll are just as few of the most successful people who lie somewhere on the spectrum.
Understanding autism is going to be a lifeline for this generation of autistic children. I have already seen a vast improvement of acceptance, even in my 5 years of motherhood. Autism has gone from something scary and worrying to a super skill & something to celebrate.
The autistic brain can see and solve things that the non-autistic brain simply cannot recognise. They may struggle with some simple milestones, but their brains are truly fantastic.
The best way you can support someone with autism? Be direct, ask them ‘how can I help you here?’ ‘what do you need?’ – ‘is it ok if I sit here beside you?’.
However, do not be offended when you receive a blunt answer. Autistic people cannot ‘filter’ to be polite, they will tell you straight. It’s a blessing and a curse.
One thing I will say about having a son on the spectrum, despite the struggles, they do not do anything half-hearted; if you upset him, he will let you know; if he is happy, he will let you know and if he loves you, oh my days he will let you know with his whole heart.
I personally think we could all learn a thing or two living life like someone with autism.
I personally want to thank Louise and Alfred for letting us into their lives and helping us understand something so complex in such a beautiful way.
I’m so proud of Louise for sharing this on such a public platform and I’m confident it will help others challenge their understanding of what autism actually looks like.
Lauren & Lou x